It's my favorite time of the year!
...That was sarcasm.
It's only two, almost one, short days away from Valentine's Day and I again find myself sitting home alone resenting the holiday for no better reason than that I have no one to really share it with. Granted if you actually like someone you should probably be cherishing them all the time and not just one day out of the year because you feel obligated, but I digress. It's super easy to get down on yourself around Valentine's Day, especially if you're going on nineteen years having never spent a single one with anyone. The closest I came was when I was sixteen my dad took me out to dinner, a "sorry you're not seeing anyone, let's go bond over WWII" dinner.
Really fun, and really awkward.
I try to stay positive around this time, but it can be hard. It seems like every time you look around you see couples. Not to mention if you try to do anything outside the house on Valentine's Day it's like people automatically think you're a loser because you're there all alone. That's a horrible way to spend a day.
Coming down to it, you're not really upset that there's no one to give or receive chocolates or flowers or any other monetary show of affection. More than anything it's the reminder that you don't have anyones hand to hold or smile to make even the worst day seem better. It's missing a genuine connection with another human being that seems to make this holiday so downright depressing for some.
While I don't have an answer that's clean cut or overly encouraging, I have this: don't sweat it. Dating and love are complicated, and they're things that will come in time. Don't be afraid to say something to someone you care about, be in family or friends, or someone you haven't had the courage to ask out. Seize an opportunity.
And if that doesn't work out, don't sweat it. Just remember that all the Valentine's Day candy that will be on sale February 15th.
